Sibling´s constellations and partner relationships
The order of birth of children in the family as well as the sex of our siblings, so-called sibling constellations, can also influence our future partnerships. I am not a fatalist, and I believe that from many "settings" can "escaped" under certain conditions so it is good to know what needs to be done in our lives.
Jelousy of siblings
It should be noted that jealousy is natural among them and it is worthwile to talk about it with kids. What, on the contrary, does not pay off is suppress it, displaced, and do not exist. Jealousy is one of the natural human emotions and we can work with it if we know about it. It is natural because the child feels threatened by the loss of parental love. A child does not know that parental love is divided and grows with the number of children that it does not hurt.
Effects of the children birth order
First born children - parents learn how to raise a children. Children tend to be autonomous, open, decisive, dominant, responsible and conservative.
Second born children - they have a long-awaited pattern of an older sibling that they want to cope with. They are competitive, active, fearless. Sometimes they compete strongly for the attention of their parents. Parents know better what works in their upbringing and so the education of the secondborn is smoother. At the same time, there is sometimes a desire to be different from the older sibling.
If another child is born into the family, this "sandwich" position is disadvantageous to children because they miss theby the attention of the parents to the firstborn and the youngest. On the other hand, these children have good frustration tolerance. They are accustomed from birth to the presence of an older sibling, so the manifestations of jealousy may not be so strong in them.
The third or youngest child in the family gets a lot of love and attention. Children are cheerful and entertaining, reckless and carefree, sometimes acting like a clowns.
The only children
They did not have to share anything with anyone and mostly had the greatest attention. It has its advantages and disadvantages. Thanks to that, they know their prize, at the same time they sometimes have problems in their group of peers. They can be ambitious and interested in performance. Sometimes they are very punctual and they expect and demand from others.
Twins
The conection from intrauterine development tends to be strong. It is said that the dominant twin is the firstborn, but it does not necessarily have to be. Typical is the similarity between these children and balanced character of these children even in the adult age. Sometimes it can also be an obstacle to establishing other relationships.
Siblings and partners relationships
A satisfying partner life is influenced by many circumstances. One of them can be siblings constellations of partners from their original family. Functional ones seem to be the ones which are differ in order and sex so if the current marriage wife from the original family is younger brother´s older sister and the husband older sister´s younger brother. The older sister is usted to take care and more often decide and the younger brother tends to succumb. Similarly older brother - younger sister. The older brother tends to protect his younger sister. They decide and lead.
Satisfied partners life is affected by many circumstances. Constellations of the same sex, ie only daughters or only sons, are usually less advantageous but different orders of husbands can help, ie younger and older.
The same order of the spouse's birth, two second born, two youngest (the process of decision-making, leadership, responsibility may become more difficult) may be less favorable. Partners have learned similar behavioral patterns and may miss the "counterweight" of a younger or older sibling. Even more complicated is the two firstborn and two single ones. Partners are dominant, they are used to making decisions, they do not like to succumb to other people. All of this is in simple terms and not 100% true, depending on the experience, characteristics, personal growth, adaptability of each partner.
The siblings' constellations are more of an inspiration and reflection, sometimes a small aid in dealing with partner slips or crises. Satisfied partner life depends, of course, on many other factors.